Tuesday, May 19, 2015

25th Wedding Anniversary

Today would have been my 25th wedding anniversary had we not divorced in 2010.  Thinking forward to this day, I thought that I would never have arrived where I am without continued sadness and regrets.  While I do have my regrets, they do not overwhelm me like they have in the past. And the sadness is only momentary.  In honor of 25 would be years of marriage, I’ve written this list of 25 truths I’ve learned from my divorce.  So Happy Anniversary to me!

1.       Self-worth does not depend on someone’s inability to love me but on my ability to love myself.

2.       Beauty is not in the eye of the beholder but comes from within.

3.       Being alone doesn’t necessarily mean you will be lonely.

4.       Strength comes from broken places.

5.       Bitterness breaks down but forgiveness builds up.

6.       There is definitely light at the end of the tunnel.

7.       There are seasons to grief and all are necessary for healing.

8.       I can do more than I ever imagined and am stronger than I realized.

9.       Contentment comes from recognizing your true worth.

10.   True love does not keep a record of wrongs but rejoices in the truth.

11.   Hateful words have no power over me.

12.   Peace and contentment are found only in a deep abiding relationship with my Creator.

13.   Laughter is an important part of life.

14.   Being joyful is a choice.

15.   Learning to love myself is the most important part of a relationship.

16.   Selfishness strangles relationships; compassion builds them up.

17.   Anger is a result of expectations which do not line up with reality.

18.   Letting go of past wrongs is an important part of healing.

19.   A broken heart will mend in time.

20.   Grace and mercy are given to us in abundance and therefore we should give freely as well.

21.   Having a relationship with my ex-husband is more important for our family than holding a grudge and building a wall between us.

22.   Kindness and compassion are elements of unconditional love.

23.   The world doesn’t offer great advice and shouldn’t be where we seek our counsel.

24.   A marriage covenant isn’t easily broken and shouldn’t be taken lightly.

25.   Weeping only lasts for a night and joy does come in the morning.


Mark said...

Suzanne, thank you for your post...my divorce after over 30 years of marriage will be final on June 3rd, and I am somewhere between broken-hearted and acceptance. We have a mutual friend, Sherie, and her posting on FB with your link is how I found your site. Nice to see there is light at the end of the tunnel. Appreciate your wise words and your willingness to share your insight.


Suzanne said...

Mark, I'm so sorry that you are going through a divorce. It is hard for both parties regardless of who instigated it. Take a day at a time and allow yourself room to heal. You will find joy again. God bless you.